Over the years, I’ve met people like that and that statement applied to me as well. Most of the time it wasn’t deliberate deception, but more a matter of showing only our good qualities. And when I write that, I’m thinking of people we like or want to know better. By withholding parts of ourselves, however, they don’t truly know us. I used to wonder, if he really knew who I was, would he still want my friendship?
Why do we misrepresent ourselves? Here’s my number one reason: For a long time I didn’t like parts of myself. If I didn’t like those parts of myself, would anyone else? But I am making progress in self-acceptance.
One of my favorite, original maxims goes like this: I would rather be disliked for who I am than to be respected for who I’m not. That has been my goal – yet too often I’ve failed.
Recently, however, I had lunch with Josh Lord, a long-time acquaintance. At one point he said, “You know why I like you? You’re honest about who you are.”
Josh’s words shocked me and immediately I wanted to protest, but instead I stopped and thanked him. This sentence tumbled out of my mouth: “The greatest privilege I have in this life is to be exactly who I am.”
I knew I had spoken the truth. I’ve also embraced this statement: I am a unique, unrepeatable miracle of God. It is a privilege to me – not because of achievements or talents, but because I’m God’s creation. The more I value myself, the more I can repeat that sentence.
No one else can ever be me. Ever.
I’m imperfect and flawed, but I’m me. Everyone won’t like me and that’s all right. I like Cec and I know God loves him. That’s enough to make me shout, “The greatest privilege I have in this life is to be exactly who I am!”
Cec Murphey (taken from Cec Murphey’s February 2014 Newsletter)